And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.) and not to show off their adornment except only that which is apparent (like palms of hands or one eye or both eyes for necessity to see the way, or outer dress like veil, gloves, head-cover, apron, etc.), and to draw their veils all over Juyubihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms, etc.) and not to reveal their adornment except to their husbands, their fathers, their husband’s fathers, their sons, their husband’s sons, their brothers or their brother’s sons, or their sister’s sons, or their (Muslim) women (i.e. their sisters in Islam), or the (female) slaves whom their right hands possess, or old male servants who lack vigour, or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex. And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment. And all of you beg Allah to forgive you all, O believers, that you may be successful.
This ayat automatically came to mind when I learned of my friend’s story. I can’t say much about it, but it’s sad to know some Muslimahs can have the wrong mindset about other Muslimahs, which eventually can lead to a wrong generalisation on the latter. And in my friend’s case, it was related to a tudung issue.
Look around us, even if you are not a Muslim, at a glance, one can assume that a girl is a Muslim if she wears a tudung. Unfortunately, in today’s generation, the tudung has been mistaken as a fashion accessory by some.
Pakai tudung, tapi baju ketat.
Pakai tudung, tapi suka maki-maki.
Pakai tudung, tapi jalan macam gangster.
Pakai tudung, tapi ketawa kuat-kuat terbahak-bahak.
Pakai tudung, tapi perangai tak senonoh.
Bottomline, you wear like a Muslimah should, but you don’t behave like one.
I am definitely not saying that I am perfect. I too, accidentally spout vulgarities once in a while when I am super irritated. I too, laugh out loud after something funny happens. But alhamdulillah, I have good friends who constantly remind each other that we should watch our behaviour when we forget.
Yesterday, I asked Tok randomly, “What if you know a Muslim girl who is against another Muslim girl who wears a tudung? Would you think that the first girl is the kind of wild girl?”
His answer was, “No comment. Perempuan yang tak pakai tudung pun boleh lebih mulia daripada perempuan yang pakai tudung.”
Betol betol betol.
I knew what the answer meant. Yang penting… akhlak. And never think that we have completed and practiced the ‘whole chapter’ of Akhlak to the extent that we think we have perfected our Akhlak. Always reflect on our behaviour I am sure there is always something to be changed. At the end of it, to put it in a Muslim girl’s perspective, her akhlaq does not depend on whether she wears tudung or not.
May Allah guide us all.