It is approximately 11 months before the wedding. THE wedding, not MY wedding alone because there will be TWO PAIRS of pengantins!
Sape excited, angkat bulu ketiak!
Statue of Liberty excited nampaknya…
So anyway, Alhamdulillah, we have secured the major service providers, we are now left with the minor details. Who said that planning a wedding is stressful, I seriously have not idea what they are talking about.
Or maybe I belum rasa stressful kot. Because stress = accelerated aging. (So sape yang terasa, preeeeez takmo rasa stress.)
But also maybe, I have been taking things easy. Like, relek satu corner ah babe. Chillaaaaaax.
My question is, what can be so stressful about planning a wedding? The financial part? The co-ordination part? To drive The Royal Wedding to shame? What???
First of all, nak buat grand se-grand grand nye buat pe? Nak buat betul-betul sama macam Lisa Surihani & Yusry Kru punya majlis? If you are as popular as them, and have as many guests as they did, silakan. Kalau you ni macam I, jangan cakap Lisa aje, even Anuar Zain (yang I minat giler) yang tak kenal I, buat di multi-purpose hall, or community centre pun orite.
Before you decide on the venue, or the size for that matter, have an estimated number of guests. If setakat 50 orang, kat dalam bilik tidur pun boleh. Ok, that was exaggerated.
From what I have experienced la kan (I mean from other weddings), paling-paling pun ada orang buat dalam rumah. Next option is the kolong blok. Next option is the CC. Next option is the hotel (fuyoh! tu dah mcm artis!). Nowadays some even hold it at the parks.
Macam kat Pasir Ris Park yang cantik tu, yang dekat dengan rumah I tu. Just don’t forget to bring mosquito repellent, unless you rasa muka berbentel bentel itu seksi. (HAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHA.)
Co-ordination. For me to have a combined wedding with my brother, the co-ordination was not a problem at all. Ape lagi kalau yang tak combine langsung? Chicken feet la sister! Semasa bertunang lah is the best time to get families from both sides together. Buat birthday celebration ke, Hari Raya gathering ke, majlis tunang lagi ke (opps.), this is the best time for families untuk bermesra, and to selit some discussions for the wedding.
They WILL sit down so that they can discuss on the co-ordination proper. Pukul brape nak datang, pukul brape nak potong cake, pukul brape nak bergambar, pukul brape boleh pergi toilet, things liddat.
Ok, most importantly, this is the most most most important, and this I cannot stress its importance any further:
ALWAYS INVOLVE YOUR PARENTS IN YOUR WEDDING PREPARATIONS. AT LEAST KEEP THEM IN THE LOOP AND ALWAYS ASK FOR THEIR OPINIONS. AT THE SAME TIME, TRY NOT TO LET THEM CONTROL THE WHOLE THING.
Jangan lah buat hal sendiri, nak step anak yatim piatu pulak. Kesian mak bapak kita membesarkan kita sampai tua bangka gini, to involve them is a form of respect for them. The very least we want from them is their blessings towards this marriage, and their blessings = Allah’s blessings, insyaAllah.
Before I end this post, I am not telling everyone to follow all of the above. Lain orang, lain cara. Asalkan caranya tak salah, dengan niat yang betul – that is more important. I’m just sharing what I think about wedding preparations in general, especially when I’m going through one now.